I hold spaceon Wednesday and Friday at 8am Pacific Time for Heart Gym on Zoom
Heart Gyms in other time zones and languages are available.
Visit the Heart Gym website:
"Rage - expressed out loud in a held space - has become the shortest pathway to my purest Love. I choose to awaken to the wild force of this anger again and again to remind myself what I value, what I want to protect and what I want to create in this world."
~ Maya, Rage Club participant
3-3-3 On Zoom
Become Ever More Alive
Ask my Mum what's changed in me after 4.5 years applying the 10 Distinctions of Conscious Feelings.
"Everything."
Want a doorway?
I hold space for a weekly 3-3-3 Initiation practice space (all 4 feelings)
Wednesdays on zoom and invite the world to join me.
The world = YOU?
Your feelings, used consciously, are epic and probably un-fully-tapped-into
resources for becoming radically ALIVE.
No one can feel consciously for you.
No one can stop you from experimenting with feeling consciously.
There is no paywall into this priceless space. Send money if you want, I will gladly put it to use.
Questions? Message, text, email or call/book in for a 30 min Discovery call.
Possibility Team
With Melissa Denuzzo and Laura McGuirk, I hold space for a weekly Possibility Team timed for Possibilitators based in the Americas. Current prerequisites: Expand the Box, one Possibility Lab, one Rage Club Series.
Mondays, 6-8pm Pacific Time.
Reach out to be added to the Team.
Work with Nicole online, globally, and/or in person in Western Canada
Possibility Coaching: grow skills and space for radical human relating
Humans are built for this.
Energetic, mental and emotional wounds and blocks that have been in the way can be removed.
A whole new world is waiting for you and those you love. Become part of a team of genius edgeworkers already at work regenerating relational spaces with themselves, each other, and life at large.
Come.
Book in for
a 30 min Discovery (no fee) or a 90 min call here.
140 - 160$Can/€ for a 90 min personal session.
Gaia Is Hiring
Are you a parent wondering what the heck you'll do after your kids are grown? Are you a young adult wondering what you are alive for and/or wanting to learn something not on the menu in the system of systems?
Discover Your Next Job From Gaia.
Radical Collaboration for Groups
Possibility Management is for empowering authentic adult initiation, and radical responsibility.
Conscious Feelings Work is the foundation.
Torus Technology is for groups.
I work with Apprentices
Requirements:
~ committed to coming alive using
the 10 Distinctions of Conscious Feelings / Possibility Management
~ full-time availability to the Archetypal Forces;
~ living on or willing to relocate to or regularly visit the Sunshine Coast of BC;
~ taking ultimately responsible for your accommodation, food, transportation,
documentation, personal effects and any dependants. I am on my Apprentices team about taking responsibility for these things;
~ commited to a time-specific first experiment. After that, the duration
of ongoing Apprenticeship is negotiated in seasonal time spans;
~ contribute an agreed number of $CAD per month to the collaboration pool.Interested? Next Step: fill in this form
For SINGLE MOTHERS
In the context of Modern Culture, Single* Motherhood is impossible.
Coaching for Single* Mothers
*Distinction: in Modern Culture, Single mothers are especially isolated, and partnered mothers also experience a degree of Lone Wolfing it not often talekd about.
Nicole holds space for Gaian Villagers committed to growing Gaian Villages.
I want to be on
your team.
My work with low-income Mothers is empowered
by Patrons providing monthly $
(you decide)
and receive reports from my various adventures.
TESTIMONIALS
Divyám'shu Konrad,
Devalaya Community,
Yogi, father, Naturopath,
Germany
Nicole lived with me in our small community in Devalaya, Southern Germany for July 2021. I am still sad that she had to leave.
Her Emotional Healing Processes and Possibility Coaching are priceless. She has full access to the tools of Possibility Management and her intensive life-experience as a mother helps her create even in difficult situations. Her integrity and reliability are remarkable.
I hope she will return here. If You have any questions, contact me.
Devalaya@posteo.de
Dor Sharabi
Possibility Pirate and Coach
Israel
Nicole didn't ask me to write this.
Nicole navigated yet another healing process for me 2 days ago.
This is not your typical modern culture psycho treatment or some tribal shamanic thing. This is a next-culture healing process. I recommend finding out for yourself what this means.
Sometimes I think I know what the "problem" is that has me stuck, frozen, despaired, but it takes a skillful trainer like Nicole to open doors and hold space, so I can get clarity on what is it about, and heal it.
Thank you, Nicole
Christine Ploschenz
Dancer, Teacher, Possibility Coach
Germany
To work with Nicole is to fly into Archiarchy. More becomes possible from the ordinary. For me Nicole is the queen of noticing, present with love and clarity. As a graduted mother I see and appreciate her wisdom of motherhood and it is ecstasy to learn and thrive with her.
Natu Ojinika Mbanefo
Glass Artist and Next Culture Facilitator
Canada
Birgid Rüger
Germany
Working with you worked because of your strength, clarity and love. There was high awareness from you. You kept the space clean. I sensed no Gremlin had a chance to hook you. You gave big important challenges. Wow, it was my chance to take the challenge and fulfill the challenge. Your explanation of the distinction between needing and wanting changed my life. I have been digging and digging through what I was conditioned to want and finally I come to what I really want. Thank you for that. I thank you for your work, everything you are doing, I have high respect for you as a Magician.
Kris Kelly-Frere
Architect and Systemic Designer
father
Canada
Nicole is a brave collaborator and nurturing community builder.
I’ve had the privilege of working with her on a range of projects including many months with Calgary on Purpose, as speakers at TEDxCalgary: Engage, and in an immersive learning session for the Systemic Design Exchange in Edmonton.
When Nicole is in a room conversations get braver, the thinking gets deeper, and every voice is valued. She is an intuitive experience designer and a skilled facilitator.
It’s a privilege to watch Nicole sharply challenge the status quo in tough conversations.
I can’t wait to work together with her again.
Bastian Fenske
SerVivo Community,
Conscious Movement Facilitator, father, Portugal
Nicole brought radical clarity to our community SerVivo.
Old patterns had crept into our community, well-hidden from our eyes. There was hidden resentment. Here and there I had given up.
Nicole masterfully created spaces to go deeper. She has a quality that I've never seen before to this extent: a crystal-clear spaceholder who can navigate the waves in the space and be vulnerable and visible as a human being with feelings. She does not hide behind the authority of her role. She goes first. With an open heart. And she creates real connections. On the same level as everyone else.
Nicole has my trust as a guide into and through the darkest corners of my underworld. The distinctions from Possibility Management that she offers are life-changing. If you want your community and your self to go further towards what you bring into the world with teamwork, clarity and love, then I highly recommend Nicole as coach and spaceholder.
from Berenika, Portugal/Poland:
It is very rare to meet a person so committed and being such a sounding “Yes!” for other’s evolution and transformation!
Over last year, online and offline, I was able to witness Nicole’s ongoing persistence, her love that radiates through her care and guardianship, her radical honesty, her healing and creation powers, her willingness to experiment and her dedication to Evolution and Gaia.
Knowing that Nicole is out there gives me more confidence in my next steps.
Thank you Nicole for Being.
from Dara, in Germany, about Emotional Healing Processes:
You held space for me, where I could move from my wish and desire for true, intimate and authentic relationships towards becoming the source of that.
Not waiting anymore until the "right" people come into my life or until I find myself in that spaces but to become that space of radical intimacy.
~~~
From an edgeworker in Berlin:
I can't believe how deep I went (in an Emotional Healing Process), how much I processed with you holding space. Wow! I had no idea I had that in me. Now I am lighter, bigger, sleeping better, relating better with everyone around me. So much more is possible that did not seem possible at all before. I CAN HEAL! Thank you!
~~~
From a NZ edge worker:
What you are up to is astonishing to me. You bring so much wisdom from your lived experiences, as a mother, as a person who has been experimenting on the edge for so long and in so many ways, falling down and getting back up, over and over and over. How you can be so loving is beyond me, and a real testament to what you must have done, inner work, to extract yourself from victim stories. I've never met anyone like you. You are a magical force of nature.
PAST PROJECTS
PM Feast/Washing Machine
Aug-Sept 2024 in Poland
Radical Relating and Gameworld Builder Lab
with Anne-Chloe Destremau and Clinton Callahan, and 70 other Possibility Managers/Trainers
The Magic Cow Bridge-House
Sept - Dec 2023
For 3 months in upstate New York, the Magic Cow Bridge-House was my home. In this Next Culture incubator, with Daway Chou-Ren, Meredith Witt, Devin Gleeson, and Eithne Leahy and special visitors, Magic indeed happened. The legends continue to be articulated.
The California Washing Machine and
Lighting the Edge: May to July 2023
and an amazing project in between
Vera Franco and Devin Gleeson held space for an Expand the Box and Possibility Lab in the California Nevadas.
Daway Chou-Ren originated a Next Culture gathering called Lighting the Edge; I was on the team.
I was based out of Wanosh Forest Garden and Healing Grounds.
The Possibility Coaching Bridge-House
First ever!
For 3 months, in the village of Bavorov, Czechia, the first Possibility Coaching Bridge-House existed. I had the honour to be part of the team with the originator, Christine Durschner, and Martin Salanda and Gabriela Fagundes. We hosted clients and Possibilitators for intensive Healing and Creation weeks. Visit the Treasure Library created during this project.
Culture Caravan, Everything Edible in Sooke, BC, Canada
and the Mama's Village
May, June and into July this magical series of constellations converged, diverged and re-converged in ever new versions. With children, in a food forest by river and sea, extraordinary humans-in-process of initiation and discovery collaborated and evolved.
Federhof, Germany
Gaian Possibilities for Families
Federhof is growing from a family home and farm into a home, event space and farm for families.
The Devalaya Bridge-House, Germany
Building a Bridge to Next Culture
Bridge-Houses are places where people live and discover how to create more Bridge-Houses. I feel joy to have been part of the early growth here during the summer of 2021.
SerVivo, Portugal
In service to SerVivo
Gabriel Millinger and I brought possibilities to this remarkable dance community. We held something like 18 spaces in two weeks empowering radical honesty, healing, clarity, discovery and transformation.
Spring of 2021: The Washing Machine
Six Transformational Trainings in Six Weeks
1. Expand the Box with Scott East in Calgary, Canada
2. Practice Practice Expand the Box with Sophia Magdalena Hofmann, in Ericeira, Portugal
3, 4 & 5. Expand the Box, Possibility Village Lab, & Intimacy Journeyer Lab
with Clinton Callahan and Anne-Chloe Destremau in Mafra, Portugal
6. Possibilitator Training Gathering with Vera Franco in Mafra, Portugal (pictured)
Awakening House Temporary Permaculture Ashram (2015-2020)
Originator
After much dreaming and discussion, I set up Awakening House in the fall of 2015 in Calgary, AB, Canada as a microcosmic experiment of The Village.
Residents and visitors tasted and tested intentional living possibilities up until the project ended with a beautiful Death Ritual in the spring of 2020.
Awakening Caffe
Seeding the Village
Every Sunday evening for two years, I held space for talks, workshops, forums, speakers, celebrations, stuff-swaps, and more. Magic happened in the cozy after-hours at Francesco's Caffe in Killarney, Calgary. I wove village around myself and experimented with many facets of Village-Making.
Awakening the Village
Answering the Call
Fertilized by Awakening Caffe, expansion started to happen into other spaces with other spaceholders, and Awakening the Village was born.
photo by Phi Vernon, Third Eye Arts
ArcaTribe
Vibe Pod Bottom Liner and Mentor
From 2015, I have been part of the two annual gatherings of ArcaTribe: Intention (5 days) and Symmetree (3 days), and the revival of EnVision, our organizers retreat.
As Vibe Pod bottom liner I applied spaceholding technology to support the emotional well-being of all involved, during and between gatherings.
The Hempshire 109 Project (2018)
It takes a microVillage to build a microHouse
It was an honour to be invited as Village Weaver onto the building team that won 4 out of 5 categories with this hempcrete and timber beauty, "The 109," at the first ever International Grow Calgary MicroHouse Building Competition.
The team included some of western Canada's most notable natural building pioneers: Dion Lefebvre, Christina Goodvin, Dori Lav, Melody Mossing, Brian Lavoie, Chad Gendall, Olivia Johnson, and Hemp experts Carl Martel, Erin Lindley, and Bonnie Mackay. Great Fun was had by all.
More for Men (2016 & 2017)
Men are the first casualties of patriarchy
My love for the men in my life, and my work with Alison Armstrong empowered this two year project holding space for men to heal and create initiation for themselves.
The Tent City Symposiums at the Kinney Earthship (2015, 2016)
near Vulcan, AB, Canada
Time spent at the Kinship, Alberta's first Earthship Biotechture-built Earthship inspired me to undertake an experimental gift economy project with the remarkable poet, Ian Kinney.
Glorious workshops, demos, herb and fossil walks, shared meals, games, drum circles and farm duties from egg collection to shepherding happened in the coulees of Southern Alberta, Canada.
Mother of Team Generys and the Wise Guys, beginning 1991
Meet my four biggest inspirations
My work is fuelled by my lovefor these four remarkable humans: Sagan, Tallis, Genevieve and Cerys, and to Gaia, to whom we are each inherent.
Photo from 2007
And More
Too many to list...but...
Permaculture Guild Calgary, the AB Permaculture Convergence, One Tree Village (Dewinton, AB), Edmonton Ecovillage Hub, Studio M* , Aloha Aina Farm now Strawflower Homestead (Salt Spring Island), Featherstone Farm (Creston, BC), Cherry Hill EcoVillage (AB), Our Calgary Intentional Community (since evolved into the Herding Cats Collective), we brought Diana Leafe Christian to town! The New Paradigm Hempery, Alchemy of Womxn (east of Edmonton, 2017 and 2018, pictured), The YYC Earthship Symposium, Project SaLV'age, FOODx, Calgary on Purpose, TEDx Calgary, XR Calgary Action and Training...oh my goodness I am missing so many.
My life and my work has long been
empowered by other Edgeworkers
I am part of a global team of experimenters creating Next Culture ~ Archiarchy.
We use many distinctions, maps, processes and tools, some of which we create as we go; others come from those who began long before...like...
My Parents
Rowan and Carol
My parents left South Africa after learning police where on their trail for teaching Black and Coloured people against the laws of Apartheid. After settling in Canada they regularly took me and my two brothers camping and travelling, providing rich learning experiences. My dad, Rowan, died in 1993. My mum, Carol returned to South Africa for a year to empower BIPOC of South Africa, and stayed for 21. She is now back in Canada.
Voracious Reading
From babyhood I devoured books
From the age of 5-19, I lived a 5 minute walk from a library and made many a trip across the field with bags of books.
Today as a light-travelling nomad I am ever fitting in a small stack of books, inevitably from the Possibilitator Library, a non-centralized legendary book-sharing gameworld.
Atypical Education, Religion and Theatre
Montessori, Private Catholic School for an Anglican kid, Parents on Staff, Theatre
Some of my earliest memories are of Christ Church, Cranbrook and my Montessori preschool and kindergarten. In grade 8 I went to public school for the first of only two years in a school without a parent on staff. Most of my highschool years were devoted to dance and drama, I performed in 7 plays in 4 years, including two awarded theatre festival performances.
Global Adventure
Now that's an education
My first international trip occurred when I was one year old. Another at age 5, then a six month "World Trip" at 12, many steps of which I retraced as an 18 year old on another 6 month adventure in 1988. In May of 2021, I officially became nomadic.
Movement Modalities
Embodied awareness
Highland, Ballet, Jazz, Gymnastics, Track and Field, Soccer, Volleyball and Theatrical Dance
Improvised Movement
Hatha Yoga and Mi Lee
Ecstatic Dance, Contact Improv and 5 Rhythms
Becoming and Being a Mother
I am the mother of four homeborn children; who have three fathers between them
The ecstasy and pain of my experiences of Motherhood inform my work with Mothers and Others.
Motherhood may be the most rigorous education on the Planet.
Permaculture, Simplicity, Upcycling, and Unplugging from Capitalist Empire
I began studying permaculture in 1991
A substantial set of skills grew out of necessity and imagination.
The Self Realization Meditation Healing Center
Raja Kriya Yoga, training in Pure Meditation, Natural Spiritual Healing, Progressive Counselling and the running of a SPiritual Centre
This work at the BC Center and the Mother Centre in England comprised a remarkable chapter of my life between 1995-2006
Trauma Recovery Work and Emotional Processing
Human emotions are not a design flaw
My connection with fellow B-School Alumni (2011), Irene Lyons, and others, introduced me to the work of Gabor Mate, Bessel Van Der Kolk and Stephen Levine.
This contributed greatly to my foundation for the Conscious Feelings Work of Possibility Managment to come.
Understanding and Celebrating Men, Women and Partnership
I am a graduate of Alison's core curriculum, the experience of which changed my life as a woman, and made me an even bigger fan of Men.
Read Alison's article about ending the longest-running war in history.
ArcaTribe and ArcaLoves
Pop up villages, Passion Shows and Vibe Pod
The magnificent peers of ArcaTribe provided me five years of experience in collaboratively co-creating pop-up villages and creative retreats.
Presence in Practice
Depth Dyad Work
With Dolphin and Susan Kasper of Evolve Now, and with Anjeli Hill.
Non Violent Communication
"I feel ____, because..."
Nonviolent communication evolved from concepts used in person-centered therapy, and was developed by clinical psychologist Marshall Rosenberg beginning in the 1960s. Katrina Vaillancourt, the creator of the Love Smart Cards, made NVC accessible to me along with Lynda Switzer with whom I experimented to create workshops and peer to peer learning groups.
B-Loops, the Benome
Philip's space holding made immense healing possible, preparing me for big next steps.
In 2024 I worked and trained with him as he creates Safe 2B: empathy training for the workplace.
Possibility Management
Possibility Management is highly effective and totally reproducible.
In the spring of 2020, I encountered Possibility Management, which was originated by Clinton Callahan in 1975, and has been empowered by Anne-Chloe Destremau since 201?. Studying and using PM has been like putting my personal evolution on steroids (I don't love that analogy, but there it is).
